Many years ago, a Message of Sai Baba stated the following:
If a person wants to live life prosperously and happily, then
"God" should be the first
"Service" or "World" should be the second
"Personal" or "Self" should be the third (it includes relatives, close friends, children, and other issues, related to them, especially emotions and feelings)
And what do we see?
All resources, all strength and emotions of a person are directed towards satisfaction of one"s mind"s vagaries and desires or those of people, who are close to him. As a result, a man gets completely confused by the web of his or her own passions. That is why there is no strength, time, or wish For God and Service to God left....And the man even looses the Grace of God for doing good deeds...
This is the reason why, if there is a question: "What did I do wrong?", when life becomes a sequence of sorrows, instead of being joy, one should remember, what Baba said in His Instruction for our Life. And He said that, IF GOD IS ON THE FIRST PLACE IN LIFE, then God will manage to settle all the rest. And when this very condition is fulfilled only.
Also remember about the MAIN THING - THE MOST TERRIBLE IN LIFE --- IS TO LOSE THE GRACE OF GOD!!!!!